Random musings

What does the word perfect means to you? I asked many people and they painted a canvas of romantic ideals, a pantheon of dreams. Everything that is to be perfect has to be flawless, without a single inch of crease and the likes. And comes to mind the fastidious perfectionist. But really what good is a word here if it is describing an utopian dimension? Something which i know very well that will never come out in the flesh.

Perfection is the mere manifestation of the mind's stirring. We create images of perfection in the exact likeness of our mind's yearnings. When you say, " Oh God, you are really my dream _____ (fill in the gender)", it is very disturbing to me. You've probably created a faceless apparition in the the likeness of your ideals, embodying all that you seem to adore and eschewing all that you abhor, a very long time ago. Well at least long before you met him/her.

That audacious statement you made earlier is tantamount to saying that the individual you met is an exact description. I don't buy that. One thing is for certain. Surely when you as an artisan, laboured through countless amorous counters to fashion out an idol embodying all that you think is ideal, i don't expect that you will be inclined to add weaknesses to that idol and declare "Ahhh, that will give it character indeed!" Indeed, no one does that. The person of your dreams resides in the world of fantasy where anything goes. It is rooted by fallacy, irrationality and thus will never see the light of reality. Under the harshness of reality, it will brown and eventually blacken into a heap of nothingness.

But back to the person you so attest to be the living incarnation of your dreams. I don't suppose this individual is one that is devoid of the slightest of weaknesses, is he/her? So what is happening here? Basically you have got an illusory person dwelling in your dreams and a person who you met in the real world. Both of them are as identical as the sun is to the moon. And yet you are saying that they are basically the same??

Hmmm... actually what happened is that you have insidiously shifted the "goalposts" i.e. you have tweaked the embodiment of your dream person so that now, both the person you know and the person dwelling in your dreams is the same. The truth is that you already knew that there are nuances between the two. What the person of your dreams really represents, is your set of expectations and now you have revised them accordingly in order to readjust to reality. But what good is it to do a tweak silently and still doggedly trumpet your "discovery", your disovery of your dream person? Defeatist.