I have always been reminded by my dad that Life is one continous journey with distinctive phases. And these phases, as much as we would like to be, aren't really that contiguous. But Life doesn't stop for a few freeze frame when we hit the grey zones ain't it right?. It sure doesn't. The world continues revolving like it always did, the sun shines on and little precious lives are constantly being brought forth into this world.
It's really a personal thing when it comes to how you segregate your life journey and where exactly do you deem fit to position a milestone, so as to speak. For me, i erected these markers [ to date, 2] at the point of transition from Primary school to Secondary school and the precious other at a fuzzy border between the end of my A levels and the beginning of my national Service.
If i were to close my eyes and visualise my life journey so far in the vast murky realm of Imagination, it would probably seems to me like a time graph continous but terribly frayed at the edges where i supposedly transit from one "phase" to the following one. And the milestone? Imagine a ticker tape timer at the end of my tape. The milestone is in the guise of a huge gaping hole punched into the tape by the hulky machine.
Would i have difficulty differentiating the few phases i have journey through so far? Not at all, i would say. Each phase simply smacks of a totally different theme, something which resonates strongly through that particular phase only to wane drastically at the edges for some mysterious reasons.
In my childhood phase, the overall theme that resonates most strongly is my family. Quite a simple one at that. As clueless kiddos, didn't we spent an overwhelming amount of time with our family? I am grateful to have been brought up in a solid family and my devotion will thus always be towards my family.
Then in my secondary school days, Friendship came into the picture. It came to occupy an important place in my heart. It is during these times, that i discovered and went through unforgettable experiences with some of my friends. My friends, a source of happiness, makes my world seems wonderfully complete.
This brings me to my current phase which is a crossroads of some sorts. Somehow, the warm and idyllic layers of Life start to melt away and this gives me a general hightened sense of urgency. Other than having to give serious thoughts to my future, i have to start thinking on how best i can contribute to my family soon. Society too, is starting to hound me. I am no longer able to get away with silly antics on the premise that i am a minor. I am expected to think, act and handle the world as an adult.
And sadly, the theme that resonate most strongly in this phase [as of late] is money. It is something lamentable but i guess it's inevitable. For the first time in my life, i am actually contemplating keeping track of my finances so as to get a strong feel of what my spending profile is like. There are so many things i want to buy, for myself and my family but time and time again, Money has proven itself to be a tough and intimidating bouncer.
I used to find myself in a unenviable position whereby i will think and worry about forseeable challenges way before they actually confront me in person. My future, my family, friends and my career. Now, i find that my thinking is more or less in tune with the times. By that, i mean that i am preoccupied with concerns that are more or less present around me now rather than issues that are still unripe for tackling. I wonder if this is a case of me starting to fail to think ahead or it's a case of my mind getting bogged down with "current affairs". There are many questions i have to answer. Time and time again, History has taught me expensive lessons that only I hold the answers to my own questions. For all the roles that others reprise again and again in my life, they only go so far as to provide mere reassurance for my own opinion.
I happen to know that there are people who are trying to influence me. For all their altruism, i would only offer "Thanks, but no thanks..." If you only see a helpless fool floundering and getting lost in the highway of Life, think again. One who makes the most mistakes, learns the most in Life. And for that matter, on what basis do you consider yourself so able such that you can nobly render aid to others? For such people, i offer yet another sentence that i have heard from others so frequently...
Before you start thinking of helping others, be sure that you yourself is in a state that needs no aid from others...
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